Abortion is Solely A Woman’s Decision
So some man in New Mexico put this billboard up after he learned his ex-girlfriend aborted their child. While I don’t have a problem with him taking out the billboard, I do have a problem with the idea he had any rights regarding his girlfriend’s decision to abort or not. There are plenty of men (and some women) who argue passionately about a man’s right to have a say on whether a woman gives birth or not and once the child is born – if he didn’t want it – should be able to opt out of being financially responsible for the child. I call bullshit to both arguments and here’s why.
Contrary to popular belief, men DO have a choice. You can CHOOSE to use protection. You can CHOOSE not to have sex with women you don’t want to procreate with. Hell, you can choose to have a vasectomy. Your CHOICES are available to you pre-conception.
Women also have CHOICES pre-conception. They can CHOOSE not to sleep with a man they don’t want to have children with. They can CHOOSES to always use protection – a variety of protections. They can CHOOSE to have their tubes ties or other methods of permanent birth control.
So EVERYBODY has CHOICES pre-conception. EVERYONE. So all this men don’t have choice is B.S. Whether or not they are choices you like is another conversation, but not liking your choices doesn’t mean you don’t have any.
Men have NO physical responsibility once conception occurs. As a matter of fact unless she pursues child support he has NO responsibility whatsoever.
HOWEVER if a woman gets pregnant – the choices she has available to her both involve having her feet in stirrups with one drastically affecting her life for a min of 18 years.
Legally BOTH parties are held responsible for the child once the child is here. SO women aren’t getting away with anything if they choose to have a child. She is physically and financially responsible for the child once conception happens. At MOST a man LEGALLY only has a financial responsibility – and this doesn’t even include the time constraints of raising the child.
BUT to have some of you men tell it it’s NOT FAIR that you have to have financial responsibility for a child you didn’t want once you ABDICATED your CHOICES that you had available to you from jump?
Mind you the woman has been legally/financially/physically responsible for the child you BOTH created from jump – even if she has an abortion that’s a physical and financial responsibility that the man DOES NOT HAVE.
So what’s unfair exactly?
You know it’s funny ’cause when we talk money it’s all the one with the gold makes the rules. But when it comes to babies – everyone should have equal say even though everyone doesn’t have an equal responsibility when it comes to having or not having a child.
So here’s the thing – the one with the uterus makes the rules – and if you have a serious problem with that as a man, then use your CHOICES from jump. Just like I tell my girls it’s better to have your own than to rely on someone to make sure things are taken care; well men it’s better to have control over your own lives instead of bitching and moaning after the fact ’cause you chose to toss your options aside.
Wrap it up.