Steve Harvey: Think Like An Idiot
I haven’t read Harvey’s latest book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, which is apparently a treatise for all us young and single gals who are out and about looking for love. I’ve heard Harvey speak on relationship topics before and his advice usually consists in some form of:
“keep your panties on, be docile and submissive, but have your own ish ’cause no man is looking to take care of you.”
Or something along those lines.
Here’s the deal: Any man who starts his “advice” from a stereotypical traditional patriarchal point of view that assumes a woman is the sum of her body parts isn’t worth listening to. You worth is not tied to your vagina and the only time being submissive and docile are worth your time is if that is who you are naturally.
The only time you lose your self respect as a woman when dealing with a man is when you allow him (or anyone) define who you are and what you’re worth. The only time you need to seek relationship advice in a book is if you’re so clueless on how to relate to the opposite sex that you need some basic rules to follow and even then you’re best asking your girlfriend who has her ish together.
I’m a fan of common sense advice. The kind that allows you to make smart choices based on what you want, what you need and who you are, not on who society (or Steve Harvey) thinks you should be. The sooner women realize that “The Prize’ isn’t your goodies, but your mind body and soul, the better off your relationships will be and the need for advice from a relationship book will be unnecessary.